Today, I want to share with you some practical tips and a strange truth about getting your ex back.
First of all, let me say that getting back with your ex is not always easy, nor is it always the best thing to do. Sometimes, it’s better to move on and find someone who is truly compatible with you. However, if you still love your ex and believe that you can work things out, then there’s hope.
Here are some steps that can help you win back your ex:
Give your ex some space and time.
After a breakup, both you and your ex need some time and space to reflect on your feelings, emotions, and goals. Don’t try to contact your ex too soon or too often, as it may push them away or annoy them. Instead, focus on your own healing and self-improvement. Work on your hobbies, career, and friendships. Be positive and independent.
Understand the reasons for the breakup.
Before you can fix the problems in your relationship, you need to identify and acknowledge them. Think about what led to the breakup, from both your perspective and your ex’s perspective. Was it a lack of trust, communication, intimacy, respect, or compatibility? Was it a specific incident or a gradual decline? Was it something that you or your ex did or said, or something that was beyond your control? Be honest with yourself and don’t blame or criticize your ex.
Apologize for your mistakes and shortcomings.
If you have done something wrong or hurtful to your ex, it’s important to take responsibility for it and apologize sincerely. Don’t make excuses or minimize your actions. Instead, acknowledge the impact of your behavior on your ex’s feelings and explain how you will change in the future. Don’t expect your ex to forgive you immediately, but show them that you are willing to make amends and improve yourself.
Communicate with your ex respectfully and positively.
Once you feel ready to contact your ex, do it in a respectful and positive way. Don’t beg, plead, or manipulate your ex into coming back to you. Don’t criticize or blame them for the breakup. Instead, be friendly, casual, and confident. Ask them how they are doing and listen to their responses. Avoid talking about the past or the future of your relationship, unless your ex brings it up. Instead, focus on the present and the positive aspects of your connection.
Create new memories and experiences together.
If your ex agrees to meet up with you, make sure that you plan something fun and enjoyable. Don’t try to pressure them into anything romantic or serious, but show them that you still have a good time together. Laugh, joke, and flirt, but don’t push your luck. If your ex is still interested in you, they will let you know. If not, at least you can enjoy their company and make new memories together.
Now, here’s the strange truth that I want to share with you. It’s based on my years of experience coaching thousands of clients and studying human psychology. The truth is that sometimes, the best way to get your ex back is to let them go.
What do I mean by that? I mean that you need to respect your ex’s decision and their free will. You can’t force them to love you or to stay with you. You can’t control their feelings or their actions. You can only control your own behavior and your own emotions.
By letting your ex go, you show them that you are mature, confident, and respectful. You also show yourself that you are not desperate or needy, and that you have other options in your life. This can actually make your ex more attracted to you, as they see that you are not dependent on them for your happiness.
Moreover, by letting your ex go, you give yourself the freedom to explore other opportunities and possibilities. You may meet someone who is even more compatible and fulfilling than your ex. You may discover new passions and interests that you never knew you had. You may grow as a person and become a better version of yourself.
Of course, letting your ex go does not mean that you have to cut off all contact or burn all bridges. You can still be friendly and respectful towards your ex, and maintain a cordial relationship. You can still appreciate the good times you had together, and wish them well in their future endeavors.
But by letting your ex go, you also give yourself the chance to move on and find true happiness, whether it’s with your ex or with someone else. Remember, the most important relationship you will ever have is the one you have with yourself. If you love and respect yourself, you will attract love and respect from others.
Getting your ex back is not a guarantee, nor is it always the best option. However, if you still love your ex and believe that you can work things out, then there are steps you can take to increase your chances. Give your ex some space and time, understand the reasons for the breakup, apologize for your mistakes and shortcomings, communicate with your ex respectfully and positively, and create new memories and experiences together. But also remember the strange truth that sometimes, the best way to get your ex back is to let them go. By doing so, you show them and yourself that you are mature, confident, and respectful, and that you have the freedom to explore other opportunities and possibilities.
Alright, let’s dive deeper into some of the steps I mentioned earlier and explore how they can help you get your ex back:
Step 1: Give your ex some space and time
This step is crucial for several reasons. First, it shows your ex that you respect their boundaries and their need for personal space. If you constantly bombard them with texts, calls, and social media messages, you will come across as desperate and annoying. Your ex will feel suffocated and pressured, and will likely pull away even further.
Second, giving your ex some space and time allows both of you to heal from the emotional wounds of the breakup. You need to process your own emotions, whether it’s anger, sadness, confusion, or regret. You need to take care of your own mental and physical health, whether it’s through therapy, exercise, meditation, or self-care activities.
Your ex also needs time to reflect on their own feelings and goals. They may need to deal with their own issues, whether it’s related to their work, family, or personal life. They may need to figure out what they want from a relationship, and whether they see a future with you.
By giving your ex some space and time, you create the opportunity for a fresh start. When you eventually reach out to them, they will see that you have been respectful, mature, and independent. They will also see that you have not been sitting around waiting for them to come back, but have been living your own life and pursuing your own goals.
Step 2: Understand the reasons for the breakup
This step is crucial for several reasons. First, it helps you avoid repeating the same mistakes and patterns in your future relationships. If you don’t understand why your relationship with your ex didn’t work out, you may end up making the same mistakes with your next partner. You may also blame your ex for everything that went wrong, instead of taking responsibility for your own role in the relationship.
Second, understanding the reasons for the breakup allows you to communicate more effectively with your ex. If you can acknowledge their perspective and their feelings, you can avoid getting into arguments or conflicts. You can also show them that you are willing to listen to them and to work together towards a common goal.
Third, understanding the reasons for the breakup allows you to make the necessary changes and improvements in your own life. If you realize that you were too needy or controlling, you can work on becoming more independent and respectful. If you realize that you didn’t prioritize your relationship or your partner, you can work on becoming more attentive and caring. If you realize that you had different values or goals than your ex, you can work on finding someone who shares your values and goals.
Step 3: Apologize for your mistakes and shortcomings
This step is crucial for several reasons. First, it shows your ex that you are willing to take responsibility for your actions and to make amends. If you don’t apologize for your mistakes, your ex may feel resentful or hurt, and may not want to give you another chance. They may also feel that you don’t respect their feelings or their perspective.
Second, apologizing for your mistakes allows you to clear the air and to address any misunderstandings or miscommunications. If you can explain why you did what you did, and how you plan to change in the future, your ex may be more willing to forgive you and to trust you.
Third, apologizing for your mistakes allows you to learn from your experiences and to become a better partner in the future. If you can recognize your own flaws and weaknesses, you can work on improving them and on becoming a more empathetic, loving, and mature person.
Step 4: Communicate with your ex respectfully and positively
This step is crucial for several reasons. First, it shows your ex that you are willing to communicate in a mature, respectful, and positive way. If you can avoid getting into arguments or conflicts, your ex may feel more comfortable and open to hearing what you have to say. They may also see that you have changed or improved since the breakup.
Second, communicating with your ex allows you to address any lingering issues or concerns. If there are any unresolved conflicts or misunderstandings, you can work on resolving them and on finding common ground. You can also express your own feelings and needs in a clear and honest way, and listen to your ex’s feelings and needs as well.
Third, communicating with your ex allows you to create new memories and experiences together. If you can plan fun and enjoyable activities, such as going to a concert, hiking, or trying a new restaurant, you can build a positive and meaningful connection with your ex. You can also show them that you are willing to invest time and effort into the relationship, and that you value their company and their presence.
Step 5: Create new memories and experiences together
This step is crucial for several reasons. First, it shows your ex that you are willing to invest time and effort into the relationship, and that you value their company and their presence. If you can plan fun and enjoyable activities, such as going to a concert, hiking, or trying a new restaurant, you can build a positive and meaningful connection with your ex.
Second, creating new memories and experiences allows you to move beyond the past and to focus on the present and the future. If you can let go of any negative or painful memories, and create new positive and joyful memories, you can shift the dynamic of the relationship and create a new foundation for growth and happiness.
Third, creating new memories and experiences allows you to rediscover the qualities and strengths that attracted you to your ex in the first place. If you can appreciate their sense of humor, their intelligence, their kindness, or their creativity, you can reignite the spark of love and attraction. You can also remind yourself why you fell in love with them, and why you want to be with them.
In summary, getting your ex back is not a simple or easy process. It requires patience, maturity, self-reflection, and communication skills. However, by following these steps, you can increase your chances of success and create a healthier, happier, and more fulfilling relationship with your ex. Just remember that the ultimate goal is not just to get your ex back, but to create a relationship that is based on mutual love, respect, and growth. Good luck!
Few Secrets from Brad Browning:
I’m going to tell you the single most important secret to winning back your ex. If you’re not aware of the important tips I’m going to reveal in the next few minutes, then your chances of saving your relationship will be next to nil. I know this because I’ve watched many of my clients ignore this advice and, predictably, throw away any shot at a second chance with their ex. Don’t do that… just trust that the techniques I’m going to share WILL work, and WILL give you the best possible chance of getting back together. So,
What’s the #1 secret to getting your ex back?
What is it that separates those who fail and those who actually do build a new, healthier relationship with their ex? The secret to winning your ex back is to fundamentally change the way your ex thinks about you and your relationship. To re-wire their brain so that when he or she thinks about you, they think about your positive qualities, how much fun you are, how many great memories you’ve shared, and how great life is when you’re by their side.
This is crucial because right now, if you’ve been dumped or if your ex isn’t interested in giving the relationship another shot, then he or she almost certainly thinks of you in a negative light. Even if your breakup was totally amicable and he or she has told you they still love you, the reality is that your ex just doesn’t think of you as someone they want to be with.
If your breakup was ugly or you’ve made a lot of mistakes since the breakup, it’s more likely that he or she sees you as “that desperate loser ex”.
If you want him or her to take you back, then you need to change that… you need to make sure that they think about you in the same way they did when your relationship began, when things were amazing and you were madly in love. If your ex were to feel that way about you again — if thinking about you brought a smile to their face and sent a surge of attraction through their body — then he or she wouldn’t even think twice about getting back together!
So, really, the key to winning back your ex is to re-wire their subconscious perception of you.
You want them to feel like they NEED you in their life, and stimulate the kind of strong emotions and feelings of attraction that will overpower logic or reasoning. If you do this properly, then all the reasons your ex has given you for the breakup will become meaningless or be forgotten completely.
We humans are emotional creatures and we’re slaves to our sexual and emotional desires… so if you can stimulate those feelings in the back of your ex’s mind, then he or she will come crawling back to you asking for another chance. I know what you’re thinking at this point… you’re thinking, “Brad,
What’s with all this psychobabble?
How does it actually help me get my ex back?”
That’s a fair question, to be honest… but if you think about it, what most people in your situation do is actually the complete opposite of what I just described. Most people — and I can’t blame them, because it seems perfectly logical — try to convince their ex to take them back.
They beg, plead, or just generally reach out to their ex and attempt to do things that they think will change their ex’s mind about the breakup. Unfortunately, this never works. In fact, most of the time, any attempts to talk with your ex after the breakup will harm your chances and drive him or her even further away.
Begging, pleading, apologizing, bribing… It is absolutely awful because all it does is re-enforce that image in the back of your ex’s mind – the one that makes them think of you in a negative light, as someone whom they wouldn’t be their romantic partner and isn’t what they want in a boyfriend or girlfriend.